The Storms of the Oceanheart

One can feel so sure, and yet so lost; So content, and yet so restless; So loving, and yet so aversive; So present with friends, and yet so lonely; So sad, and yet so hopeful. The human heart is a vast ocean, Which can be beautifully still one moment And rapidly ruptured by violent waves…

Happily Ever After

Happy Ever After endings create unrealistic expectations. No relationship is ever “happily ever after;” all couples face difficulties an obstacles that test the relationship and must be overcome. Fairy tales do depict the overcoming of obstacles, but transcend these in order to envision a fantasy state in which all trials are permanently overcome.  In the…

Happiness Here, Where Life Is

Happiness Here, Where Life Is by Adam Pearson If you don’t find happiness Here, Now, In this very place, At this very time, Then you never will– For your life is nowhere else but here And nowhen else but now. Only the conditions you place on happiness Keep you unhappy; Remove the conditions, Drop the…

On Distinguishing Between Generalizations and Overgeneralizations

My dear friend Swami Omkarananda once said that “all generalizations are false; Including this one.” While there is some truth to this witty saying, the situation is a little more complicated than it suggests. Indeed, some careful thought reveals that although all overgeneralizations are false, many reasonable generalizations are true. If some generalizations were not…

Sexuality isn’t Wrong; it’s Healthy

A simple recipe for suffering is to believe that the basic sexuality to which you are genetically predisposed is intrinsically wrong and dirty.  Those who hold this belief are bound to suffer because what they loathe and feel guilty for is a deep part of who they are.  Just as hunger for food and drink…

Scattered Reflections on Relating to the Past

Some people appreciate the past and use it to enrich the present; others use it as ammunition to blast the present into pieces. Some know how to let old bones rest; others dig them up and use them as weapons. Some learn to let go of the past; others cling to it and make themselves…