The Heart of the Void: Finding the Assumptions At the Core of Shame

By Adam J. Pearson Introduction: What is Shame? In previous articles, I’ve written about the nature of shame, this powerful feeling of deficiency or lack that we sometimes experience at the heart of ourselves. Shame is the name of the void we feel within us, the void that other people’s approval and attention cannot fill. Shame…

Tuning into Feeling Tones: Emotions Beneath Words

By Adam J. Pearson Image: “Body Language” by xDarQax Introduction You’ve probably had this experience. You’re talking to someone and their words seem to be saying something, but their body language is saying something totally different. You may have even seen this tendency in yourself. She’s saying “I’m fine,” but you get the sense that she’s furious….

The Uncomfortable Truth About Healing a Broken Heart

By Adam J. Pearson Today, I heard something I have heard people say again and again over the years, something that is often toted by the cynical and the hurting as the best solution to the pain of heartbreak, namely, that: “The best way to not get your heart broken is to pretend that you…