By Adam J. Pearson Introduction Anger can sometimes seem to loom over us like a baffling monster, terrifying and powerful. It can appear to rage through through the bodies of otherwise harmless people and possess them like demons. A flurry of yelling, a bombardment of hurtful words, and an explosion of harmful actions often follow when anger boils…
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The Prison and the Key: Why I Write About Shame
By Adam J. Pearson The Wisdom of Eamonn Perkins Eamonn Perkins is a wise, humble and tremendously compassionate teacher from Ireland who spends much of his time working with addicts and prisoners. He’s so low-key that, as of this writing, he doesn’t even have a website. In a 2014 interview, Eamonn said something brilliantly concise and and equally incisive: “If you…
Silencing the Praise: Why Seeking Approval Fails to Fill Our Inner Void
By Adam J. Pearson The Game of Approval Seeking For many years, I found myself playing a game that was not only futile, but excruciatingly painful and destructive. Usually without even fully being conscious of what I was doing, I would try to seek approval from other people. It was as if there was this…